Health & Wellness

What is Emotional Resilience and how to achieve it?

Written by Sonz

This World Mental Health Day, the team of Regalier would like to encourage a widely known concept known as emotional resilience which is believed to help thousands of people to prevent issues such as stress and depression and sometimes even help get out of it.

So what is emotional resilience?

In simple words, the art of getting a blow and letting it go is known as emotional resilience.

It is proven that everyone, at least once in their life, experiences a situation that leads to trauma in some form or another. It may be because of a physical life event or an event caused by another person or by the loss of someone close. There are various forms in which people are stricken with an event that was mostly unexpected and this causes us to feel depressed, stressed, helpless, hopeless, pessimistic and all kinds of emotions on the negative end of the spectrum.

It almost feels like the circle of life has hit rock bottom and refuses to move up.

But once we train ourselves to be emotionally resilient, we enable this circle to keep rotating back up no matter how hard the circumstance and thus letting life move on in more or less the positive end of the spectrum.

So how can we achieve emotional resilience? Here are our top 5 tips:

  1. Remember: You are hurt and not broken

We often feel that we are completely broken, like our hearts are shattered into pieces when we encounter a phase that feels like it has destroyed us. But it hasn’t. Yes, it has made us upset. Very, very upset. But not broken. When we feel that we are broken, we end up looking for things that can fix us back, the failure to which adds to the depression that we are going through. And this is when we feel that everything in our life is falling apart. If we treat it as being hurt, a wound that will eventually heal and its scar will eventually fade, the feeling becomes easier to handle: like a child being scratched on the knee when they fall down, it bleeds, it badly hurts initially, then gradually fades away or even temporarily forgotten when handed over a bar of chocolate or an ice-cream.

2. Find or do something to love

Like the child above. Find your ice-cream or a family member or anything else that you can love unconditionally. Literally. Love with no-conditions-attached. It not only helps you forget your pain but also lifts up your spirit and gives you the ray of hope to live. The small happiness in life could be anything, like having a ham sandwich or a 48 hour long nap or cuddling with your stuffed toy or watching guinea pig videos or even just looking at your loved ones sleep. Find these small pockets of happiness and the bitter pain is often replaced by sweet thoughts, if not completely forgotten.

3. Life should be happy or hopeful or something in between

Generally emotions in life are given two basic tags: happy and sad. We say to make it happy and hopeful. If something amazing is life, great! Be happy and rejoice in the moment. If something amazing is not happening then be hopeful that something amazing is going to happen. This will always keep you in the vicinity of being positive.

4. Get busy

Pack your lunch and your schedule and get on the move. Get busy with work that needs your focus and focus on your work. Burn yourself out by getting busy with work and workout. Diversion is the best temporary cure for immediate relief from negative mental stagnation.

5. Find a hobby

Always wanted to learn how to paint? Or sketch? Or learn terrarium? Then the perfect time is always now. When work stresses you out, jump onto your hobby for fun! Never let your mind stay still to wander away to worrisome thoughts. Happy hobbies will keep happy minds.

These are our tips to help you lead a better mental life this World Mental Health Day.

If you have stories about your mental health achievements, share it with us!